Success may be defined as “the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.

Yet, success in truth is purely subjective because every individual has a different expectation. The key is to understand if your expectation is realistic or based on illusion.

Twitter, Linked In, and Facebook have become familiar tools of our current culture. Semil Shah explores how social networks mesmerize us into a false sense of security and lead us to believe that we are positioning ourselves for success. In previous times, TV advertisers created illusions with perfume commercials that all we had to do to attract a handsome Prince Charming was to mist ourselves with a branded fragrance. They created a great mystique. Similarly, when we connect with other individuals who are powerful, successful, and the top players in their field, we get comfortable into believing that we’ve been invited to their inner circle of influence. The reality is far from the truth. They continue to have the influence and we are just their audience.

So, how do you turn things around? How do you position yourself as an expert, a credible authority in your field? It isn’t enough to be connected or build a network on Linked In, Facebook, or Twitter. We need to prove our worth each and every week. We need to create significant content or value to our intended recipients.

Blogging is the first way to begin to develop your unique value proposition, or your personal brand. Here is an easy way to develop your professional voice in your field. With the advent of the Internet and social networks, it is possible if you begin a dedicated strategy of focusing on a specific niche to become known as an expert in that area within 2 years.

So, before you start out the gate, with creating a blog, you first need to identify your vision. Who do you want to become? What is your long-term plan? Is it realistic or is it just feeding an illusion? The best way to test your proposed plan is to ask the people that know you: your friends, your colleagues, your business associates. However, remember, they may be biased to keep you in exactly the same place you’re in because it will make their lives or work easier. The most successful individuals in the world had professional help and didn’t get to where they are today by themselves. If you’re ready to truly be serious about executing on your vision and becoming successful at work or in business, then identify a professional who is an expert on career strategy. They will be able to be objective and help you separate fact from fiction. After all, isn’t having real success worth it?

As you peruse expert sources about being successful in your career and business, you seem to always seem to hear the words out of the box and innovation. Usually this pair is overused.

So, what if there is no box?  How do you innovate?  Is it easier to adapt or modify an existing framework or template or do you start from scratch?





What’s Your Tipping Point to Stress?

Billy Joel performing Pressure

CNN – August 11, 2010 (Health)

Experts tell CNN’s American Morning what makes people like the JetBlue flight attendant snap under pressure.

Why is it that some people snap and others remain calm under the same circumstances?

It really is about our perception of how this affects us. In his book, Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers, Robert Sapolsky, explains the latest theories on stress when we expect to predict and control our environment. According to Dr. Sapolsky, we differ in the psychological filters through which we perceive the stressors in our world.

So, let’s take a look under the hood and try to understand how your triggers work.

Your conscious awareness, or your intellectual brain is typically irrelevant according to Joseph LeDoux, one of the leading neuroscientists.  In his book, Emotional Brain, he explains emotional responses are hard-wired into the brain’s circuitry, but the things that make us emotional are learned through experience. And this may be the key to understanding, even changing, our emotional make up.

Your emotional brain contains your fight or flight command center (your amygdala) that is tuned into your memory center (your hippocampus), all part of your limbic system.  So, when you’re under pressure, your intellectual brain is basically irrelevant.  Your intellectual brain consists of thought, logic, critical thinking skills, language, and conscious awareness. It’s called your neocortex, since it evolved last.  At this critical time, when it would be helpful to be clearly logical, you are actually the opposite because your emotional brain is engaged and your amygdala is activated.

Without your logic, critical thinking skills, creative problem solving and decision making skills, you will not be able to clearly identify, investigate, or discern the root cause of your amygdala triggers and continue to experience unmet expectations, unsatisfactory results, or eventually snap under pressure.

If you are experiencing stress, pressure, and having difficulty meeting your current challenges, read more about the emotional brain, by downloading my free e-book, Three Brains for Success.

Before you can change anything in your current situation, use my debriefing tool to help you identify what’s going on.

Start by asking,
1.  What is working well?
Next, proceed to review:
2. What isn’t working so well?
Now, ask yourself,
3. What needs to change for things to work better?  If you don’t know, who does?
If you’re not sure, then seek professional assistance.  Remember, you need to first be ready to admit that something isn’t working so you can gain clarity about what’s really going on.

Stay tuned for more tips in the following weeks as we head into our busy holiday season, a natural stress booster.

Coaching To Learn New Tricks for Your Success

by Wanda Ropa July 24, 2010

It’s never too late to learn new tricks as this video reveals. Yes, anyone can learn a new technique or trick for success.  Surf the Internet and it’s full of proven methods to become successful in business, your career, and your life.  Every day, a new guaranteed program is popping up in the field of […]

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Are you in shape for success? It’s time to do a tune-up and look under the hood

by Wanda Ropa March 21, 2010

“Beauty in things exists merely in the mind which contemplates them.” – David Hume’s Essays, Moral and Political, 1742 Just like beauty, success is in the eyes of the beholder, or is based on your perception. Encarta defines perception as the process of using the senses to acquire information about the surrounding environment or situation. […]

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